I would let Dr. Eggman tip me. I don’t care how he got the money.
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same thing happened to me when i worked at a 7-Eleven in Boston – this one guy who always had a different girlfriend with him would give me $20 tips every time he came to buy cigarettes. When I told him he didn’t have to he looked at me like I was an idiot and said “Of course I don’t have to!” One of the other cashiers claimed he was the son of a Saudi prince, but I have no idea where she got that information from and kind of suspect she was just making things up (though who knows).
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what you two are describing isn’t really the same thing at all
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Maybe he’s just being nice and there’s no obligation for anything except to enjoy a cup of coffee on a Sunday afternoon while you’re working. If you paid for it before and then all of sudden it was gratis, perhaps they have the power to give a free cup of coffee for people and you have enough of an interaction to qualify. If not, make the offer to put it in the tip jar (assuming there is one) or pay for someone elses so you are paying for a cup of coffee along the line.
Have you seen anyone receive the same treatment?
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he is just being nice yes, but that’s the problem. I just want to make a business transaction so I can have coffee, not deal with this ambiguity every time
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If it was me, I’d go with the tip jar option. If he then asks you to pay, pay without a tip. Keeps the message pretty clear you were paying for it all along.
then I have to carry cash bc I can’t tip with a card since I’m not paying. Also: this is self-serve coffee and while I would add a tip to the card charge, I do that just to be decent; the cashier doesn’t actually do anything he would be tipped for, you see. I feel like a caged animal
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I can see why it’s such a tough one. I only have one other possible option
I mean you could go without coffee. But I don’t actually understand that sentence
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Stanley thermos full of coffee time
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Use the money you’re saving from the free coffee to get yourself a cookie. That way you still have something to pay for so you don’t feel weird. Until he starts giving you the cookie for free too.
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just ask him out already yeso.
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Do I have to go to the register every time and ask for coffee then have this guy say it’s on the house every time going forward ?
That’s what I would do. I’d just assume this is a perk that could be taken away at any time, whether it’s someone else working or the guy is told not to do it anymore or any other reason. So each time I’d go up, ask for coffee, and either pay or be told it’s free. I would do this until the guy says, “You don’t have to keep doing this - if I’m working, just get coffee” or until the circumstances change.
What’s uncomfortable (for me) is that I see a pattern of generosity, but it would be asking for more to clarify the pattern, and I’m not asking for free coffee - “So, do I always get free coffee?” may be perceived as a presumption that the arrangement is permanent. I’m just conflict avoidant enough to not assert myself, but I’m not so avoidant that I’d avoid the place altogether. It’s on the other guy to clarify. If he doesn’t, the weirdness is on him.
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The coffee cups are at the register, so there does have to be an “encounter” each time. Dont think I’m being conflict avoidant I just don’t want to have to deal with this. There’s a polish lady who works behind the counter and she’d never indulge in any of this. Why can’t she work the register and just make me pay money. That’s all I want
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doubt this is what’s going on (I’m physically hideous) but if it is I don’t like it. Don’t want anyone trying to draw me into their web I resent it
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average american response when encountering the gift economy
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If it were me I’d just say “what, every Sunday?” or something and let them clear things up.
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Then just enjoy a free cup of coffee until you can’t. If you’re paying with a smile and a hello then that’s what it costs. Bargain!
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I want to make a purchase from the aloof to bordering on rude polish lady. But wouldn’t we all
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You’re probably not the only one and this dude just thinks coffee should be free to employees
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you know something, and this goes for all of you - there are times when people just want to be heard and validated. People dont always need a solution or an explanation of their own feelings. This is called emotional intelligence
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