Bit late to this but I would also avoid buying coffee if it happened to me. I would much rather just pay the money and then not have to worry about… I guess like acting grateful or whatever? Even if it’s not the intent, you can’t just be “gifted” something and then act in the same way as if you’d paid for it.
This deviation from social norms converts a very simple interaction into something that requires more mental effort, it’s turning a break from work into more work.
They’re putting in security cameras in the warehouse ostensibly for security concerns but obviously for time theft concerns. I feel bad for the warehouse folks who can now get in trouble for looking at their phones, though I suppose for that to happen we need to hire someone to work the bat computer which seems unlikely. I also feel sorry for myself, as my time theft walks will now be caught in 4k
It’s not time theft it’s called hanging out!!!
Oh I’m definitely hanging out…that’s pretty much all I do is hang out. Even as we speak I’m hanging out
I worked at a horrific factory for a while and I would walk across the entire campus and back to like look at the vending machine in some break room I normally would have never seen before. It could easily eat up half an hour. Then I would do it again later that day but to a different break room. Or maybe drive to the satellite campus and do it there. I was not working the factory line. I guess if I knew security cameras were put up I would bring things like clipboards and boxes with me, dispose of them or whatever and come back so it looked like I was doing stuff.
Time theft is such a dumb concept.
Especially considering it’s only ever the lowly hourly employees that get in trouble for it.
Don’t want me to “steal time”?
Pay me $200,000 a year.
This is what I say to every interviewer.
I’m quitting my bar job today.
I’ve been working concessions at a performing arts center for about a month now and it’s the easiest job I’ve ever had.
I’m also generally making ~$30/h.
My last paycheck had like 11 hours and 4(?) shows on it.
I can make at least as much money, and I get home earlier so I feel slightly more like an actual human.
It’s also extremely flexible.
If anyone here is looking for an easy night job I’d definitely look into it.
Base pay in my city is $9/h, but I’ve seen in some other cities base pay can be as high as $18 (maybe even more?)
$18/h plus tips for doing such an easy job sounds like a dream to me.
Maybe I can actually force myself to not work weekends now.
sorry yeso <3
My emotionally intelligent take: That sounds like the plot of a Seinfeld episode.
Ok but I wasn’t here before you said this and I have the real solution. You just have to keep mechanically attempting to pay each time. Reflect the discomfort of the situation back on to him until he realizes, wait, in an attempt to be nice, I’m not doing this guy a favor, I’m actually giving this poor guy an uncertain and cantankerous social ritual, and now I’m tired of it too, so I’ll give free coffee to the non polish workers (at this point you’ve got him primed for an ethnic discrimination complaint to HR)
I never mentioned it before but I really like my new job as an apprentice carpenter for a small family-owned contractor. I’ve been working with a real nice guy and learning a lot about how houses and buildings are constructed, and most importantly, renovated (that’s what our company mainly does.) Everyone I’ve met at the company has been super nice and eager to help me learn (except for one guy who was a big jerk), and I immediately felt like this was a good place to try to start my first ever proper “career,” so I pretty quickly started asking if I could start an apprenticeship (I was hired as a labourer), which it turns out they really need at the moment. Now I walk around with a hammer and a tape measure and a baseball cap looking at pieces of wood and going, “hmmmm.”
As a labourer/apprentice, a lot of my work is demolition: taking things apart is a good way to see how things are built, while also being a lot easier than actually building anything. I pry stuff with pry bars, hit stuff with hammers, cut beams with sawzalls, etc. But my favourite part is when I get to actually help build stuff, even if it’s as simple as nailing a single piece of wood to another piece of wood. Just feels great.
Wa-hoo!
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Today sucked…. Had no idea what to expect and was totally unprepared. I feel ashamed but it’s because my boss will take no responsibility for giving 0 information.
Sorry for being so negative. I said a month ago I didn’t want this shift but was talked into it. “It’s so easy”. I just want to sleep. I want my time back this was not worth it. Now I’m strung out.
pretty sure that’s what this thread’s for, my man.
Nobody should have to work that early (or late tbh) - our circadian rhythm isn’t something you can just mess with like that
4 day work week in our lifetime is the soft ask in these trying times
I start a new job tomorrow and I am for some reason very nervous! I negotiated for a higher starting pay and they accepted but somehow feel like I duped them into it. is there cure for imposter syndrome?
Something that has helped me somewhat is reminding myself that selfishness and entitlement are actually value-neutral and even positive traits to have in healthy amounts. It took a long time for this to have a lasting impact on me though, and I still have imposter syndrome in certain situations. But like, there’s nothing wrong or fiendish about prioritizing yourself to get your needs met. You can also look at it like the people who hired you are adults, so let them live with the decision they made.
Anyway, congrats on the job!!
the only cure is jumping in and getting your hands dirty. everyone else has imposter syndrome, too. salary negotiation is baked into the rate. you’re very smart, you’re gonna do great.
I just left work and it was totally fine, my brain can be so dramatic sometimes. Thank you @connrrr and @MoH for the good advice 
the cure is when you meet someone who is worse than you at the same job
